In a Choose HER mother-daugther relationship, is it okay to vent like that about each other?
I get it. I know it’s hard to live in close proximity to another woman day in and day out. It’s impossible not to have conflict of some kind now and then. It’s to easy to take those frustrations and dump them on a friend. When you do that, though, five things happen:
1. You devalue your Choose HER relationship because you’ve put someone else between the two of you as a mediator or sounding board. It elevates that person above the relationship you have with your mom or daughter.
2. Seeds of discontent take root in complaints and you’ll allow them to grow by fostering feelings of dissatisfaction.
3. When you let fly on a friend about your mom or your daughter, you’re opening the door for a response. That response can lead you down a road of gossip and can lead to bitterness.
4. You harm your witness for Christ. Ephesians 4:29 says: Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
5. It drives a wedge in your relationship with your mom/daughter and with God.
Dealing with conflict in your Choose HER mother/daughter relationship, you have to remain focused on the big picture, not on your individual rights. It’s not about winning each battle or proving yourself right in an argument. It’s about remaining united and driven toward the same goal. Don’t let the enemy sow seeds of discord among you as you walk hand-in-hand with Christ.
Instead of complaining, exercise patience in your relationship. Instead of grumbling, be persistent toward God’s best. Instead of gossiping, turn to prayer.