Georgia asked: How do you know when a friend is a real friend or not? I have two groups of friends. Group A says mean things to me when I try my best at everything and group B are the ones I hang out with. I asked both sets if I was fat, and group A said I looked pregnant and group B said I was just right. My mother says the group B are the good friends is she right?
Emily said: Yes. Your mom is totally right. Your real friends are the ones who are nice to you and want to spend time with you. When kids say mean things or ignore you or put you down, then you know they aren’t your true friends. A good friend, is someone who’s nice and really relates to you–someone you can totally be yourself with and not have to pretend you’re someone else. It’s not a good idea to chase after the wrong kinds of friends–it never turns out well.
Natalie answered: In my school it’s really split between the ones who really want to be popular and those who don’t care about that. I don’t really care about popularity, but I have friends on both sides. I know that my true friends would tell me straight up if I asked a question and wanted an honest answer. Surface-type friends will either say something to make you happy or to make you sad, depending on their goal, but not at all depending on the truth. So, you have to look at the intentions rather than the actual words. That’s how you’ll know who your true friends are.
Nicole said: Yeah, I totally agree with both girls. The way you told the story, Georgia, I’d have to say that it sounds like group A was being pretty mean. But Natalie’s right about looking at intentions in order to figure out who has your best interests at heart.
Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. Proverbs 27:9