It’s time for the R in PURITY. Wow! We’re halfway through the word.
A few weeks ago I spoke to the teens about respect in relationships and how it leads to purity. They must respect themselves, respect boys, and respect the Lord (most of all). When they do this, it will naturally lead to purity. It’s our responsibility as parents to inspire purity in our teens and one way we can do that is to help them see how important it is to implement RESPECT in their lives.
As we discussed a few months ago, we must be proactive in our parenting. Not reactive. Proactive means we’re going to take responsibility and be active in their lives. We’re not just going to sit back and let things happen. Sure, we can’t stop our teens from going down the wrong path. But we sure can put up road blocks, detour signs, caution lights, and bright beacons to light the correct way. This is a lot of work but not near the work it will be to go back and try to fix things once the damage has been done. That’s what a reactive parent does.
We’re all busy with household chores, jobs, school, church activities, working out, taking care of aging parents, trying to have our own social lives, and more. To ask you to be on guard at all times for the things that attack your teen’s purity and to take responsibility for their wellbeing is probably enough to send you over the edge. But we don’t have a choice. It’s our responsibility.
It starts with protecting their eyes and ears from the things of this world. If your teens are away from home during the day in school, this might be tough to do. But if you keep the lines of communication open with them and make sure they know it’s safe to talk to you about the things they’ve seen and heard, then you’re off to a good start. You might fear what they have to talk about because, let’s face it, teens know a whole lot more these days than we did as teens. Just put your game face on to hide your embarrassment or fear or anger—depending on what they need to talk about—and keep those lines of communication open.
Take responsibility for your own actions and thoughts, as well. Make sure you are working toward purity in your life. It’s the best example a teen can ever have. When you guard your mind and body against impurity, your teen will want to follow your example.
When we’re talking about purity we’re talking about having sexual integrity. That means avoiding the act of lusting, adultery, and pre-marital sex. We avoid anything that will cause us to want someone we’re not married to and to think with our private parts and not our brains. Sorry to be so blunt, but our purity is just as important as our teen’s purity.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 says: It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own bodyin a way that is holy and honorable,not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
50 Shades of Gray and Magic Mike are two of the latest bits of “entertainment” (if you want to call them that) that are focused on causing women to lust. You may ask, “What’s wrong with them?” There’s not enough space in this article to tell you what’s wrong with them. To put it simply, they encourage women to think about sex in an unnatural, ungodly way and to lose our focus—which should be loving and serving God and our families.
It’s time to grow up and act like the adults we are. We’re parents and we need to take responsibility for our own lives and for the lives of our children. Parenting is a 24/7 job. It’s tough and time-consuming. But each step we take toward purity and toward claiming responsibility for purity in our families will be one step closer to the victory this world needs!
How do you feel about that responsibility? Are you up to the challenge?
Sherri Wilson Johnson
Sherri Wilson Johnson is an inspirational romance novelist, speaker, former homeschooling mom, and women's ministry leader who loves to share God with others while sharing her life experiences with them. She loves to laugh and make others laugh, and she's passionate about purity and sexual integrity and living on a shoestring. Sherri is available to speak to audiences of teen girls, college girls, women, and homeschool moms at conferences, retreats, or women's ministry events throughout the U.S. Topics include marriage, dating, sex, purity, modesty, living on a budget, writing, and grief. Sherri is the author of To Dance Once More and Song of the Meadowlark as well as an upcoming novel with Choose NOW Pubishing. www.sherriwilsonjohnson.com