By: Vicki Tiede, Behind Closed Doors column
Parents’ Guide to Social Media, Technology, & Teens
Gone are the days of rotary phones and passing notes. We’re living in a digital age and we need to get up to speed or our kids will leave us in the dust. There’s much to consider when it comes to setting our kids “free” with technology that has Internet capabilities and social media and apps that are continually changing!
Is your tween/teen pleading for a smart phone? iPad? Facebook? Snapchat? This is a bigger deal than you might first think. Here are a few things that you’d be wise to consider …
Are they old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibility of its use?
I can’t tell you how many preschoolers I know who have their own tablets and iPads, so the line of demarcation for when a child is ready for various technologies is admittedly pretty blurry, and you must weigh and follow your own convictions on this.… continue reading
Rev. Jason Lane, Man Resumed Column
It has been some time since I have posted a new column and I feel the need to explain. For those of you that are striving to be leaders, let me say I am praying for you. Over the past six months or so I have struggled doing some of the very things that I love to do the most. I have struggled, and if I were to say I do not know why, I would be lying.
Maze of Ministry
Being a leader does not mean that you will be perfect. In all honesty, I think it means that you are one of the first to encounter struggles and failures. At least it seems this way to me. I look around and I see the other leaders in my position and they all look so perfect, but I think that is because we have become very gifted in making sure no one sees the reality of our struggles.… continue reading
Teaching our Daughters to Say NO! by By Tara Fairfield, the On Identity Column
Many years ago, I taught a class to college freshman on helping them adjust to campus life. During our discussions one day, the topic of date rape arose. To my surprise, every young woman in the class said she would stay on a date even if she felt uncomfortable to avoid hurting the guy’s feelings. Their admission stunned me.
Why would these smart, capable young women put themselves in danger?
Truth is, women often struggle with the word, no. They offer reasons such as, I don’t want to be rude, or I want him to like me. No doesn’t sound like a difficult word, but if you’re a woman ask yourself:
1. Have you ever said yes to a second date you didn’t really want?
2. Have you ever told a guy you liked him, when you really wished he’d go away?… continue reading
By Cara Putman
Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s hard enough to mother in a generation where there are more how-to books than any one person could read. And each has a different strategy, a different technique, a different this-is-the-way-you-must-mother-or-you-have-epically-failed.
Yet this ignores several important elements.
1) Each child is completely different. I have certainly seen this played out in my kiddos. No matter how much I like to think they’re the same, the reality is that they are unique individuals. God planted different skills, talents, personalities, and so much more inside each one. So a one-size fits all approach won’t work with each and every child.
2) Each mother, each father is different. We don’t all fit the molds that people say we should.… continue reading
Death and Taxes By Steve Repak, the On Family Money Matters Column
Romans 13:7 (NIV) Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.
With the tax season upon us, I am reminded of an old saying that goes “you can plan on two things in life and they are death and taxes.” That said, this year I had the privilege to participate in the Military Saves campaign at Rose Barracks in Grafenwoehr, Germany. Military Saves takes place during the last week of February throughout all branches of service on installations all over the U.S. and overseas. The campaign encourages military families to build wealth, not debt. The Service members and their families have the opportunity to take classes throughout the week to help them learn how to be better prepared financially. Mission readiness equals financial readiness.… continue reading
Three Ways to Have Your Son’s Girlfriend Adore You by Bethany Jett
For the first decade of your child’s life, you are the hero. You can do no wrong. Your meals taste amazing, especially if they include a little packaged toy. Activities are enjoyable. You’re never wrong.
Then enters hormones.
With the flip of a switch, the highest place of esteem is awarded to the teenage girl who just started shaving her legs. As the mother of three sons, I know this day is coming. I’m mentally preparing for the day that I’m not their first go-to when something bad happens. At some point, my sweet little guys will be attracted to the wiles of a adolescent little girl whose word will become law.
So help me.
After numerous conversations with other mothers of boys who survived the dating storm of their children, I’ve planned my strategy. I will not be on the defensive, oh no!… continue reading
Amber Frank: Out of the Ashes
“But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the Day of Judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” Matthew 12:36-37
Wow, those are red letter words right there, meaning, Jesus himself spoke those words. I wonder if we kept this verse in front of us all day if we might not choose our words a little more carefully. I know this is something I could use a bit of work on, especially when it comes to speaking about my spouse.
I know we have all heard the saying, if you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all, but do we really know how true that is? Our words have such an impact on the people around us, and it looks to me by the verse above a big impact one day in the future on us as well.… continue reading