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Choose HER med choose HER: Mother Daughter ministry with Nicole ODellThe vision: To develop healthy and vibrant mother-daughter relationships, building upon your similarities and celebrating your differences with a focus on communication and preparation.

Choose HER will lead you into the mother-daughter relationship God intended for you.

The scope: Through a monthly Choose HER Column (below) offering relationship-building tips and advice, and local events near you called The Choose HER Experience, mothers and daughters are brought together over shared interests, unique differences, the Word, and worship.

This mother-daughter event may just be the thing that makes all the difference in your relationship with your mom. Or, maybe this is the place you’ll finally have that breakthrough you’ve been praying to happen between you and your daughter. Or maybe everything’s great, but you really want to come and hang out together, laughing, playing, learning, shopping, and growing. Whatever your reason or need, Choose HER is the place to be!


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Book Release: Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition and Hot Buttons Drug Edition! Presents inside…

Book Release: Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition and Hot Buttons Drug Edition! Presents inside…

Hot Buttons books Book Release: Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition and Hot Buttons Drug Edition! Presents inside...

Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition releases:

Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition offers: the facts about teen sexuality, backed by statistics; specifics for how to talk frankly about sex with your kids, discussion about the growth of homosexuality and bisexuality among teens; and compassionate advice for guiding your teen to reclaim purity.

Quote from Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition:

The words sex and sexuality used to make even adults blush. Now middle schoolers—without even lowering their voices or glancing furtively around to see if any adults are within earshot—describe people as sexy and hot. And Victoria hasn’t kept any secrets for years now. In our sex-saturated culture, nothing is left to the imagination. In an environment that views sex as raw and physical and seductive, it’s an uphill battle to once again define sex as beautiful and mysterious and spiritual. And in a society that assumes teens will be sexual, parents are faced with more challenges than ever to inspire their teens to pursue purity.

But there’s one benefit Christian parents have gained in that cultural shift: the freedom to discuss issues surrounding sexuality openly and honestly, maybe even without blushing…

Hot Buttons Drug Edition releases: 

Hot Buttons Drug Edition braves the scary world of substance abuse, equipping parents with facts, warning signs, and real-world scenarios on: alcohol; Marijuana and other drugs; inhalants; and prescription drugs.… continue reading

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Choose HER: A Mother’s Prayer; Are you in this video? You can be!

Choose HER: A Mother’s Prayer; Are you in this video? You can be!

Check out this new video celebrating mothers and daughters who have made the choice to Choose HER. Are you in it? If not, you can be! Simply sign in on the Choose HER homepage and then email your mother daughter picture to <choose her> @ nicoleodell . com.

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Hope you enjoyed that! Thanks to Rachel Aldous for generously allowing us to use her beautiful song.

PinExt Choose HER: A Mothers Prayer; Are you in this video? You can be!… continue reading

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Choose HER: My teenager’s driving me crazy! My mom is so annoying! Five Effects of Complaints

Choose HER: My teenager’s driving me crazy! My mom is so annoying! Five Effects of Complaints

In a Choose HER mother-daugther relationship, is it okay to vent like that about each other?

I get it. I know it’s hard to live in close proximity to another woman day in and day out. It’s impossible not to have conflict of some kind now and then. It’s to easy to take those frustrations and dump them on a friend. When you do that, though, five things happen:

1. You devalue your Choose HER relationship because you’ve put someone else between the two of you as a mediator or sounding board. It elevates that person above the relationship you have with your mom or daughter.

2. Seeds of discontent take root in complaints and you’ll allow them to grow by fostering feelings of dissatisfaction.

3. When you let fly on a friend about your mom or your daughter, you’re opening the door for a response. That response can lead you down a road of gossip and can lead to bitterness.

4. You harm your witness for Christ. Ephesians 4:29 says: Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.… continue reading

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On Hot Buttons: To Err is Human; To Forgive, Divine

On Hot Buttons: To Err is Human; To Forgive, Divine

This is the fifth Monday of the month and, though I usually post a Hot Buttons post on Mondays, I’m going to use today to crack open an issue we all face at some time or another.

Unforgiveness.

Mom. Dad. My request is that you’ll prepare your hearts and purpose your minds to face the mistakes your teens will make with love, acceptance, and understanding. No matter how much work you put into working through the Hot Buttons I give you, or how many hours of talking, praying, and guiding you do, your teen will mess up at some point. Expect it. Accept it.

Approach those mistakes as teaching opportunities and pray that God uses them according to His will. Don’t ask for them or fear them, but embrace them for the special kind of learning that only comes by walking through the fire.

Above all, guard your hearts against judgment and unforgiveness.

My father and I are estranged. We haven’t spoken in six years. I’m not going to get into the details of he said, she said. That part just isn’t important. However, I will talk about forgiveness.

In a family, you must be willing to apologize for your mistakes.

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On Health & Fitness: 10 DOs and DONTs for living your own body image in front of your daughter

On Health & Fitness: 10 DOs and DONTs for living your own body image in front of your daughter

 

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I’m posting this in both the On Health and Fitness column and the Choose HER column because I think is a very important post for women of all ages. How we portray our outlook on our own health, fitness, body image, diets, and lifestyle choices to our daughters has a profound effect on how they view themselves. If you’re like me, you struggle with a lifelong battle with dieting. It’s a constant focus and an up and down fight with equal parts victory and failure.

But, here’s my question: Is that what God intended for us?

And here’s another question: Do our daughters deserve the weight of that legacy?

No. No. NO.

But what do you think happens when our girls watch our back-and-forth dilemma over every bite we eat? What do you think they feel when we don’t want to go out on Friday night because we have nothing to wear? How do you think they feel about us when we can never relax and enjoy a nice meal including dessert? And how do you think they feel about themselves when we refuse to put our insecurities aside to spend a day at the beach or a water park with them?… continue reading

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Choose HER: what’s it all about?

Choose HER: what’s it all about?

Have you been curious about the big announcement I’ve been tweeting about for a couple of weeks? I had several people guess that I was pregnant (um, no) or that I have a new book deal or something like that. But, no, it’s none of those things. I assure you, though, if you’re a teenage girl or you’re a mom of daughters, you’re going to love this!

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Choose HER is about just that. Making the choice to CHOOSE HER. Choose to have a relationship with your mom–instead of shrugging her off and assuming she’s there to make your life miserable. Moms, it’s about choosing to embrace your teen for the beauty she possesses and bring her unique qualities to the forefront, glowing in response to the creation she is in Christ Jesus.

You know what saddens me? So often, I hear from Moms who can’t wait until the teen years are over, and from teens who cry, “I hate my Mom!” But, oh, how that grieves the heart of God who has knit the two together in love and purpose. He gave you to each other. In much the same way a married couple should fight for a healthy relationship, so should you, Mom and daughter.… continue reading

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“I love them, but sometimes I can’t stand them!” Six Steps to a Power Shift

“I love them, but sometimes I can’t stand them!” Six Steps to a Power Shift

I'm Ashleigh, mom of 47 teenagers--okay, just two really. They are driving me insane. I love them. I don't want anything bad to happen to them...unless it involved a roll of duct tape across their mouths. How can I get them to stop? ... Oh boy. I can hear it in your words, Ashleigh. In a sense, you've already thrown in the towel. But we can get it back. Trust me. I believe, by the way you described the situation, you're feeling so hopeless at this moment in your parenting, that if we were in person, you'd reject every suggestion I'll offer out of the expectation of failure. You're letting the teenagers run the house and run right over you. It's going to take commitment and resolve to get the power back--but you need to for their sake and yours!

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